At your best ALL the time?? Tough assignment!

You have huge ups and downs in your job search.  Right?  You’re ridin’ the wave one day, and you’re crumpled on the rocks the next.

Somehow we have to be at our best all the time – in interviews, in networking meetings, at public events.  We just have to – game face in place.

A recent discussion among a group of my clients focused on “When I’m at my best, I am _______.”  We were exploring what each person felt like when they are at their best. 

Here is the value of this exercise:  If I can instantly recall what I’m like when I’m at my best, I can assume that mindset at will.  It’s something that good salespeople and athletes do all the time.

 Here are some of the descriptors these clients used to describe themselves at their best:

 High energy

Optimistic

Confident

Out-going

Funny

Interested

Proud of myself

Focused

Creative

Analytical

Relaxed

A trouble-shooter

Empathetic

Friendly/talkative

Free-flowing

 None of us are all these things at one moment.  But you are probably some of these things (and a few others) when you’re at your best.

 Homework: develop a list of the characteristics that describe you at your best.  Write that list out; commit to learning it.  And finally, assume that mindset as you execute the tasks in your job search.

 People are more likely to hire the ‘best’ you!

How do you stay positive in your job search?

Let’s face it — looking for a job is a miserable experience for most people.  You’ve built a successful career up to this point.  You’re respected within your sphere of expertise.  You’ve posted terrific results.  And now you feel you’re on the outside of the work world, looking in.  Employers don’t respond to your online applications.  Interviews feel more like auditions than dialogues.  And you’re feeling rejection on all fronts.

In the face of all this, you know you have to stay positive and keep your ‘game face’ on, but how do you do it?

A group of my clients discussed this recently and came up with a list of ideas you may find helpful.

  1. Look to the future.  Understand that you’ll emerge from this experience and do meaningful work again.  As Knute Rockne said, or might have said, “Never give up.  Failure is not an option.”
  2. Exercise regularly.  This is a process which can deplete you physically and emotionally.  Exercise is vital to staying physically and emotionally healthy.  And you don’t need to pump iron or run marathons.  Just a regular walk around the block can be a benefit.  “Younger Next Year” is a terrific book that explains the benefits of exercise.  I strongly recommend it to you.  More at http://www.youngernextyear.com/
  3. Be honest with yourself about your job search effort.  Are you really working hard at your search? Or are you going through the motions by applying for a few jobs on line?  A true job search involves getting out of the house and meeting with people — friends, acquaintances, former colleagues, new acquaintances, etc.  This leads to point 4:
  4. Get out of the house!  You will be more positive if you get away from your computer.  Meet people for coffee.  Attend meetings – professional associations, employment networking groups, etc.  Create a small group of fellow job seekers and meet regularly — not to gripe and complain, but to encourage and coach each other.
  5. Reward yourself when you have a productive day.  Nothing extravagant, but something that brings you pleasure.  I had a client who would reward herself for a productive day by reading by the pool for an hour late in the afternoon.  Maybe your reward is exercising!  Hmm, points 2 and 5 are working in tandem to move you forward.
  6. Use time management to build a schedule.  Schedule the activities above, just like you’d schedule events/meetings at work.
  7. Do some volunteer work — just a couple hours a week.  Giving back to your community, even during this time of uncertainty in your life, will reward you in ways that will enrich you.
  8. Don’t overwork yourself at this process.  I tell my clients that 4-6 hours of well-structured job seeking activities per day will move you forward in your search.  If you’re flogging yourself into working 10-12 hours a day at this, you’ll simply run out of gas.

Bottom line: Maintaining a positive attitude is everything.  Right now, your attitude is your most important resource.

Who to watch out for in your job search

I have had too many clients come to me in the past who have made me the second stop on their career coaching path.  The first stop has invariably been at one of those firms that wants to charge you thousands, thousands! of dollars – sometimes as much as $12,000.

 They may find you through a resume you’ve posted on the internet. They make themselves sound like an executive search firm. They’ll call and tell you how incredibly marketable you are, and they’ll invite you in for an interview. “And, by the way, bring your spouse with you.”  (Would this make you suspicious?  It should.)

 So you appear at their magnificently furnished offices and are treated like the hot ticket you believe yourself to be…until it’s time for the close.  “We think there’s a great opportunity for you, but you’ll need to invest in yourself a bit to properly position yourself for that opportunity.”  Then they lay out their service offering to you — $3500? $6000?  $9500? Or more.  Here’s why your spouse was asked to come along: “Barbara, we’d like to encourage Bob to invest that $9500 in his future.  Is he worth that amount?”

 By now you’d think alarms would be going off in everyone’s head, but the close may not be complete.  “At our firm we have a private list of contacts, people who are unavailable to the public, who can propel you into your next job.  Think of your fee as an entrée to that list.”

This pitch works more often than it should.  You’re anxious about being out of work.  You’ve never had to mount a formal job search before.  You’re…easy pickings.  And you pull out your Visa.

One of these firms built such a nasty reputation over the years that they renamed themselves a couple years ago – old vinegar in new bottles, but vinegar just the same.

I’m not saying that investing in your job search is a bad idea.  That’s the way I earn my living.  But I’d suggest that paying for services as you use them, rather than plunking down a large sum up front, may be a more rational approach.

How can you tell what career transition advice is good?

Our Sunday paper has an advice column for job seekers.  Various ‘experts’ are invited to respond to letters from readers. I’ve played the role of ‘expert’ in the column about 40 times over the past seven years, so I view it as a good resource for job seekers – especially when I’m being quoted. (Sorry, checking my ego at the door as we speak…)

Recently the reader’s question read something like this:

“I’ve received an offer for a job.  I think the salary is on the low side.  I’ve left a voicemail for the HR person but haven’t heard back.  How should I handle this?”

 

That week’s ‘expert’ offered the following advice: “Sign the offer letter and return it to the employer.  When you show up for your first day of work, go to HR and tell them you’d like to negotiate a higher salary.” 

My reaction was, Really? Are you nuts?  You’ve signed the offer letter, accepting the offer.  Show up at HR asking for more money, and you’re saying that you signed the offer letter in bad faith.  Don’t bother unpacking your things.  You probably will be done with your new job before lunch that day.

There is a lot of advice about finding a job out there, isn’t there? How do we tell if the advice we find is sound?  Take resumes, for instance: One page long, two pages long, even longer.  Include just the past ten years; include everything in your career.  Make it formal; make it sizzle. 

So there you are, working on finding a job.  One expert says zig; another says zag.  How do you find a trusted source on these matters?

I’d suggest talking to other job seekers.  Go to meetings and workshops set up for job seekers.  Ask friends whom they’ve relied upon for career transition advice in the past.

You can find lots of advice and guidance that is free or very reasonably priced. 

Let’s talk about unreasonably priced resources in our next post!

How do you stay focused in your job search?

As you go through a job search that stretches over weeks, and maybe over months, you have ups and downs, times when your energy is high, times when your energy is low.  The emotional roller coaster can be a rough ride, right? How do you stay focused and productive in your search through these ups and downs?

One of the Weekly Strategy Teams compiled the following list of ideas to do this:

  1. Understand the importance of scheduling your time.  An unstructured day is probably a lost day.  Have at least one commitment, appointment or meeting on your calendar every day. If you spend the day in your pajamas, that’s not a good sign.
  2. Create a daily routine for yourself: get up, exercise, have breakfast, do telephoning, have meetings, work on projects on your computer.  The content of the routine is secondary.  What’s important is that there is a routine.
  3. Set goals for the day and for the week: the number of contacts you’ll talk to, the number of networking meetings you’ll have, the number of events you’ll attend.  Obviously your over-arcing goal is to find a job.  But you need intermediate goals to spur your productivity and momentum.
  4. Create a pipeline in your search: contacts, calls, meetings, more contacts, identifying target companies, researching target companies, finding contacts in target companies.  This pipeline of activity stretches out over the next couple of weeks and assures you of not having a ‘dead zone’ in your job search.
  5. Define a successful week so that you can acknowledge a job well done at the end of the week.  This might include the number of calls you make, the number of jobs you apply for, the number of events you attend, and the number of networking meetings you have.  You need to have goals to shoot for and achieve.  Then, on a Friday afternoon, you can pat yourself on the back for a job well done.  We need those self-administered ‘atta-boy’s’ and ‘atta-girl’s’.
  6. Define clearly in your mind the importance of one-on-one networking meetings.  They are the building blocks of your job search.  Once you accept that, get a bunch of one-on-one’s on your calendar each week.  Don’t be overly selective.  You’ll meet with almost anyone, won’t you?  You never know who has a key contact that will sling-shot your search forward.
  7. Understand the value of connecting with friends – even friends you haven’t spoken to for a couple of years.  They’ll be delighted to hear from you.  And they’ll be delighted to introduce you to people they know. Trust me – they will!
  8. Work your marketing plan.  You haven’t developed one yet?  Get on it.  Design a marketing plan which defines the directions you’ll pursue in your search and the target employers you want to approach.  If you have a marketing plan already, and it isn’t producing results, re-work it into a plan you’re excited about.

 The key to bringing your job search is building and sustaining momentum.  Do the things listed above and stay focused.  The search will still take longer than you want, but it will be shorter than it otherwise would have been.

How have I been changed by my job search?

George leads group discussions among his clients each week.  The following is a topic that comes up regularly.

 The experience of looking for a job is new to many of you.  Most of you have smoothly transitioned from one role to another in your career to this point.  Now you find yourself having to look for a job for, maybe, the first time in your life.

 I’ve found that almost everyone going through this process is changed by job search experience. 

 1. You’ll probably become more sensitive to people in transition in the future and be more apt to help them.  You’ve walked this path, and you know how great it is to receive heartfelt help from others.

 2. You may be looking critically at your skill set for the first time.  “What are the marketable skills and experiences that I bring to my search?”  Many of us who have been in our careers for decades may come to think of ourselves as ‘generalists’ or skilled in ‘general management’.  You’ve found that you have to be more specific in describing what you bring to the table.

 3. You may have come to realize that the culture of your next employer is a critical factor in selecting your next job.  Every organization has a culture – some great, some frightful.  And you may have come to understand what culture attracts you and brings out your best performance.

 4. Perhaps the biggest change that people may notice in a job search is the re-ordering of their priorities.  Some folks decided to go in a wholly different direction with their careers – a different role, a different industry, less travel, an exploration of consulting, a decision not to pursue the ‘promotion track’ quite as aggressively, and so on.

 Bottom line: Almost everyone learns something profound about themselves during a job search.  I hope you have the same experience!